From:
Mark W. Farrell
Subject: Re: Speachless
Hey blue
n' loonyboi,
First time
for me here in your mail!
Been using
your board for about as long as you have been there,
all I can say is wow and thanks for all the hard work
(take a bow dudes!!!).
I am 42
years, um, 'old'. I have a wife, son and two Siamese
cats. My son (age 13) and I have a blast kickin' each
others respective behinds playing fps games like Quake][,
Half Life, and Starsiege. We also enjoy strategy games
like Total Annihilation, CnC/RA, and the ever incredible
Sid Meier's Alpha Centauri. We even play Worms(2). (I
actually dread the strategy games because he kicks my...
ya get the idea.)
We just
got my wife to play Q][, and she now understands what
true fun is.
We also
enjoy family things like: camping, reading, fishing,
shooting (yes, my father (74) takes my son shooting),
movies, roadtrips, Renaissance Faire, Scouting, comforting
others, sushi, Tae Kwon Do, puzzles, museums, talking,
listening, hugging, looking at the Caller ID before
answering the phone, laughing at the system, laughing
at stoooooopid people, laughing at life, laughing at
eachother, and laughing at ourselves.
Out in the
world, we see so many people that have gone bad and
we wonder what kind of list their families could throw
together.
We read
in reports that 5% to 50% of kids in some school on
various types of behavior modification medication (zombie
drugs) so that the teachers can make it through the
day and the parent does not have to cope with nastygrams
from the school. Yes, I have met people with three kids
that all have ADD/ADHD (mild to severe), survival depends
on medication, sometimes. One was in my Cub Scout den
<sigh>.
Isn't it
odd that when the kids don't want the treatment it is
called required medication, when they do it is called
drug abuse.
Have the
parents of these kids grown-up-so-much that they encourage
their children to rebel to all that 'Mom and Dad' stand
for? Is there any personal (not the Sunday song n' dance
mumbo-jumbo) relationship with their version of the
Powers That Be? (as Ben Grimm would say 'nuff said')
Is there
an understanding, like I had with my parents (and we
have with my son), that no subject is sacred or taboo?
If the child needs to talk, then the parent(s) needs
to listen - openly! Do not condemn your child for curiosity,
or especially questioning the system. If your child
has done something wrong (or just plain stoooopid),
offer your life experience, offer your help, offer your
understanding, offer constructive guidance. Explain
that adults obviously don't always do the right thing,
or know how to play nice together, or share - just because
they are adults.
It must
be so convenient to be able to suddenly blame a rash
of previously unexplainable behavior on some-thing.
It must be comforting to know that the parents didn't
go wrong or neglect their children in any way.
I get nausious
when I hear all the crap about specialists and professionals
spewing forth their own self-important drivel and people
cling to it like the Emperor and his new clothes...
I gotta
go do some family things here...
Again, Thanks
for the fine community service:
Mark W.
Farrell <<The Doctor>>