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With immeasurable sadness, our family had to let go of my mom yesterday. She died at 3:35 p.m., leaving a hole in my and many other lives that can never be filled.

Thanks to all of you who have expressed kind thoughts on the subject of her condition. She was a strong believer of the importance of community, and was quite familiar with her identity here as MamaBlue, and she would have considered the support so many have shown to be a fine example of the benefits of a communal spirit. Likewise, my own thoughts are with the many of you who have described your own families' struggles with illness -- you have my sympathies.

Finally, thanks to Frans for his help catching up on today's news. I'm sure there are many questioning the need for me to jump back into this so soon, but it's been a good distraction, and with a funeral this weekend I really wanted to clear my plate to keep the backlog of news from being stressful and to prevent it from getting any more overwhelming.

Links of the Day: National Alliance of Breast Cancer Organizations.
Story of the Day: Talk Like a Pirate Day. Thanks TRNutt.

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159. condolences Sep 20, 2003, 05:02 zow
Sorry for your loss. Stay strong and take care.

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158. Re: No subject Sep 20, 2003, 04:57 uDoh
Best Wishes

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157. No subject Sep 20, 2003, 04:41 Trin
Blue, I'm so sorry. Please take care of yourself and family.

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156. The dash of life. Sep 20, 2003, 04:38 Ten4
This little note that is going around the net might offer a moment of reflection for you, and for all of us.
My hole has never been filled, even after 26yrs.


I read of a man who stood to speak

At the funeral of a friend

He referred to the dates on her tombstone

From the the end.

He noted that first came her date of birth

And spoke the following date with tears,

But he said what mattered most of all

Was the dash between those years.


For that dash represents all the time

That she spent alive on earth...

And now only those who loved her

Know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not, how much we own;

The cars...the house...the cash,

What matters is how we live and love

And how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard...

Are there things you'd like to change?

For you never know how much time is left,

That can still be rearranged.

If we could just slow down enough

To consider what's true and real,

And always try to understand

The way other people feel

And be less quick to anger,

And show appreciation more

And love the people in our lives

Like we've never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect,

And more often wear a smile..

Remembering that this special dash

May last only a little while.

So, when your eulogy's being read

With your life's actions to rehash...

Would you be proud of the things they say

About how you spent your dash?

If you have received this, it means that you are

truly special to the one who sent this to you.

I am glad that you're a part of my dash..

Gamers helping Gamers
Ten4 over and out
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155. Re: Our sympathies Sep 20, 2003, 04:32 Von Helmet
You have my sympathies, Blue.

Whatever it takes to deal with this, do it. Take a break or stick with the work. Either way, just make sure you do get round to grieving at some point.

It sounds really weird to say it when you don't know any of us, but we are all here for you, even if all that means is that we're saying a few prayers or whatever the atheist/agnostic equivalent is.

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154. Our sympathies Sep 20, 2003, 03:50 Fleener
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. My family sends you our sympathies.

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153. No words...and remember... Sep 20, 2003, 03:43 IAM->TheDoctor
No words can ever heal the pain,
for your life will never be the same.
Look into your heart and remember the day,
when you said, hey Mom, I'm going away.

She always knew that it would be this way,
her child has grown and can not stay.

To watch her fledging young ones fly,
on new found wings, tears in her eye.

She sees the good things as mothers do,
when this time comes she believes in you.

You always new this time would come,
it doth come to us, each and every one.

To watch your beloved Mother fly,
on new found wings, tear in your eye.

We live in a house (upstairs) with my folks (downstairs) because my wife and my father decided that this would work out better. My wife has been taking care of my Mom for about ten years. Her medical problems include (but are not limited to):

Diabetes mellitus
Rheumatoid Arthritis
And, to top it off, she is 76.

I know one day my Mom will find her wings, as did your Mother. The thought frightens me to tears.
I leave you now, with a final thought:

Remember and she will never really be gone.

In remberance of MammaBlue,
Mark W. Farrell and Family

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152. Condolences Sep 20, 2003, 03:40 Punchy McFist
I'm sorry to hear the bad news. Again I wish you and your family all the best in these trying times.

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151. :( Sep 20, 2003, 03:39 Bludd
I'm sorry for your loss. I offer my sincerest condolences.

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150. Re: No subject Sep 20, 2003, 03:37 Rolphus
I haven't read the rest of the posts (it's 8:50am and I've been up all night having fun), but I just want to add my condolences to the list before I pop off to sleep. Losing a family member is never easy, and I can't imagine what it must be like to lose your mother. I can only hope that you can take some small solace in the fact that we're all behind you and here for you. Be strong, Blue. We're all rooting for you.

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149. No subject Sep 20, 2003, 03:05 Nyarlathotep
My condolences.

Calling Cthulhu webmaster
Calling Cthulhu
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148. No subject Sep 20, 2003, 03:01 NSi
My condolences, Blue.

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147. :-( Sep 20, 2003, 02:48 JRiordan35
Stephen, I used to post all the time, but lately I just haven't been involved with gaming much so I"ve been inactive here. However you're still my homepage, and this caught me as a shock. I'm so sorry to hear. Just wanted to say I'll say a prayer for you, and that your mom is probably in a better place already.

Please don't worry about the news too much -- what is the harm even if some minor news never gets posted here? Dealing with the loss of your mother vs. some computer game gossip -- there's no contest. However everyone deals differently, so whatever you need to do... good luck.


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146. sympathy Sep 20, 2003, 02:32 tron
blue, i'm sorry to hear of your loss... may you find the strength and peace you need during this rough time in your life.

and as for keeping up with the news and the "backlog" you seem to worry about - let it go... be with your family, use the site as a distraction if need be, but for goodness sake - there is no need to worry about us missing some trivial bit of news about a screenshot or video card review. i think i speak for everyone here when i say that we fully understand that your family is more important than keeping us posted... we can afford to miss a bit of "news" while you deal with your loss.

that said: take care, man. we love you and support you whatever you need to do.

- tron -

"tron is big and tron is full of action"
-from the Tron 2.0 box
- tron -
"tron is big and tron is full of action... it's a hell of a ride!"
-from the Tron 2.0 box
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145. Re: The Best Die Young Sep 20, 2003, 02:12 Finger
From one gaming webmaster to another, sorry to hear this. I might be dealing with something similar soon regarding my father, and I've been trying to deal with the prospect of this for the last ten years now. Hope you come out the best you can possibly can,


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144. Loss Sep 20, 2003, 02:12 shul
Stephan, I want to convey my deepest sympathies and my condolences for your loss - I hope you will see this through with the knowledge that life should and will keep on.

As one which met loss in several occasions I want you to know that sometimes (especially when the person dying is close to you) the best way in the first days is to keep on doing the stuff you always do, returning to normal for part of the day. Keep in mind that the full weight of what has happened will fall upon you and try to manage your time is such a way that when it does someone will be there, or, if you prefer it that way (like I do) - a warm, familiar surrounding and a lot of silence...

Stay strong,


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143. No subject Sep 20, 2003, 02:11 gunbuster
Blue, my condolences and sympathies for you and your family. Be well.

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142. The Best Die Young Sep 20, 2003, 01:58 Tejano
Hey Blue, I've been reading your site probably since it's inception and even met you once at a CPL event (2000 -- when the Daikatana demo was released). Anyways, sorry to hear that your mom died. I know I'd be quite upset if my mom died as well.

- Tim Swanson

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141. None Sep 20, 2003, 01:57 A3D Wizard
Difficult to read all this and suppress painful memories of the passing of my parents but what a wonderful tribute it is to you and your mom.
Thanks for being such a part of this family of readers for so many years. Your loyalty to us is inspiring. We share your pain. We mourn with you.


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140. I'm So Sorry... Sep 20, 2003, 01:49 Parallax Abstraction
Blue, I posted to the other thread expressing my sympathies, but I feel that I must do so again. My family and I are very sorry to hear of your loss. I am sure that you and MrsBlue will be able to help each other through it and as always, you have all of us and the many unspoken others whose thoughts are with you and your's.

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