Well... nationalism sucks, but it's something you won't escape anywhere in the world. I am sort of curious what bmovies have to do with the subject as well, but it really doesn't matter.
I am a bit surprised at how you present the Russian people, but I suppose it is a result of your distance. I have personally met several people educated in Siberian University who make me doubly aware of my ignorance as an American. Russia is now producing a lot of technically savvy and creative people. But that is fairly recent history.
Communism hurt the former USSR, gradually robbing the people of a "work ethic" that America used to have in spades. Now, the roles are becoming reversed as republic policies create new opportunities for a liberated Russia and America complacently allows itself to slide into a stereotypical socialist democracy. Perhaps this is only a new chapter in the Machiavellian cycle after all. I can ony hope that is not so.
Still, you and I are individuals, not just Americans, Russians, Canadians, etc. At this point in history technology is allowing us to all but ignore national boundaries if we choose to; for most intents we are neighbors. From my perspective all wars now seem like civil wars, as so often we have friends on both sides of the border. The tragedy is felt on a personal level no matter who "wins."