Efflixi wrote on Sep 18, 2024, 18:58:
For the last 10 years or so I've had this internal struggle with my mom and my now step dad. We have completely opposing beliefs in literally everything and they take it to such an extreme that I don't even want to associate with them at all anymore. But then again, it's my mom... sigh... wtf do you do in this situation?
You realize that your peace of mind is more important than anything else in this world. Consanguinity means fucking nothing. Sharing genetics with someone is not an unbreakable tether that allows them to drag you down with them in to whatever abyss they are hellbent on reaching the bottom of.
I mention my sister and my nephew here infrequently. Neither share familial DNA with me. They are my family nonetheless. I choose whom my family is and so can you.
You stated that you have, roughly, 11 years left. How many of those years are you willing to sit in inner turmoil, discontent, and agony? Doesn't matter that it's your mom. This is about you and the time you have left. How much of that time are you going to waste being miserable? Because, dollars to donuts, neither your mom nor your stepfather are going to feel or share your misery.
Life is never fair. But that doesn't mean it has to suck all the time. Make your choice.
"Just take a look around you, what do you see? Pain, suffering, and misery." -Black Sabbath, Killing Yourself to Live.
“Man was born free, and he is everywhere in chains” -Jean-Jacques Rousseau
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