Alec Holowka Dead

Alec Holowka has died by his own hand, reports Heavy.com, just days after being accused of abuse. This was announced by Holowka's sister on Twitter. Her account is now marked as private, but they offer quotes from what she wrote:
In announcing Holowka’s passing, Eileen Holowka said that she believes “survivors and I have always done everything I can to support survivors, those suffering from mental illnesses, and those with chronic illnesses.” Eileen goes on to say that her brother suffered from abuse and battled mental illness and a personality disorder during his life. She describes her brother as someone “who wanted only to offer people care and kindness. It took him a while to figure out how.”

Alec Holowka, my brother and best friend, passed away this morning. pic.twitter.com/NONUNSZ08q

— Eileen Mary Holowka (@derangedpoetess) August 31, 2019

Eileen said that Holowka became a new person in recent years, thanks to a combination of therapy and medication. Eileen says that Holowka was “calm and happy, positive and loving.” In the wake of the allegations made by Zoe Quinn, Eileen said that her brother had been receiving support from the Manitoba crisis services. Eileen adds, “[Holowka’s family] tried our best to support Alec, but in the end he felt he had lost too much.” The statement finishes with the words, “For anyone who is in a time of darkness, I encourage you to reach out for support. There are always people who will be there for you.”

Holowka followed up the tweeted message by saying, “And in case it’s not already f****** obvious, Alec *specifically said* he wished the best for Zoë and everyone else, so don’t use our grief as an excuse to harass people. Go outside, take care of someone, and work towards preventing these kinds of things in the first place.” Eileen Holowka also works in gaming as a developer and was given a special thanks credit on “Night in the Woods.” In the fallout from her brother’s suicide, Eileen said that she does not see a future for herself in gaming.

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Atun Desenfrenado wrote on Sep 1, 2019, 12:28:
Killed by #MeToo

So words killed him? Not the choice he made to kill himself?

As long as no free will infringement occurs, you can't put the blame on free speech. Her words didn't force him to freely choose to commit suicide.

Did it have an impact? Probably, just as an allergen can have an impact on the death of someone who is allergic to that allergen, but is it the allergen's fault or the fault of the immune system for overreacting?

You see, even in the case of removing the choice from the equation, by making it mechanic and automatic, you still can't clearly put the blame on the source of the stimuli. The same stimuli on someone else would've been completely harmless. It's not a case of bullet vs body.

Between choosing to force people to censor themselves ( committing a free will infringement with assured negative consequences, and sometimes also suicides ), or respecting their free will with sometimes negative consequences. I'll choose the latter, every time. It's the only logical choice.

Forcing them to shut up will lead to suffering and suicides, more often than letting them talk, but letting them talk will also lead to suffering and suicides. So it's not where we should focus our attention on solving this problem. See below.

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Now with all that said, should there be a system in place to deal with this away from the public eye in an efficient fashion? Yes. But it seems we still aren't ready for that, so when this system fails ( 1 in 3 women will be raped in their lifetime, THINK ABOUT IT, ONE IN THREE, and only a small minority of these rapes lead to convictions ), the only recourse is going public, because the SYSTEM HAS FAILED.

And education/cult-ure failed too, why are men raping on such an epidemic scale? Stop blaming the victims. It's not the women's fault, women don't rape men ( nowhere near as often as men do ), it's the men doing the vast majority of the raping. Why?

That's the real question, that's the root of the problem and it's there we must focus and act to solve it.

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EDIT: Oh BTW, if people think I don't have a problem with letting women talk because I never got accused of something I wasn't. Got bad news for you, I was, at age 6. I got accused of pedophilia at age six and the whole school and village knew and a lot believed it.

At first you could jump to the conclusion that free speech was the problem, but it wasn't. The problem was the belief that existed back then that pedophilia was a sickness transmitted from father to son and so on. So if my grandfather, father of my father, had been found guilty of sexual abuse on a minor, then, by virtue of this bullshit belief, my dad was, so me too.

They were motivated by fear and delusions, so let's not repeat this mistake again here.

Since then this belief has gone the way of the dodo, fortunately, but I lived with the consequences of this accusation and ensuing ostracization/bullying/persecution/psychological scars for decades. I KNOW VERY WELL WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT HERE. And even despite this, I still hold strong that we should NOT muzzle women. THINK ABOUT THIS.

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