NKD wrote on Jul 30, 2014, 13:40:
Beamer wrote on Jul 30, 2014, 13:31:
Moral of the post doesn't seem to be "hey, guys, don't beat 17 year old girls and leave them bloody in the street," but "hey, 17 year old girls, don't have fun skimpily dressed with your friends at a place full of skimpily dressed people because some guy may beat you."
Yeah, seems that way. I'm all for personal responsibility. I think this girl did make a shitty decision, not that it excuses this guys behavior, but lets at least point out the decision she made that actually put her at risk. Instead of the one that doesn't comport with conservative values regarding sexuality.
How do you avoid getting fucked over at a major event? SAFETY IN NUMBERS. You can be wearing fucking pasties and a Tribble from Star Trek over your snatch and be perfectly safe at a con, as long as you stay in a group. Or you could be wearing normal street clothes and end up a victim because you weren't in a group.
Women are much more likely to be victimized by strangers on the street. It's a simple fact. What they are wearing doesn't really swing that statistic at all. Where they are, and the fact that they are alone accounts for all the risk.
Well, the whole thing with "rape culture" is that you hear so much about what women should do to avoid being raped, but you rarely hear a guy being told "don't rape."
Yes, there are some things you can do that are stupid. If you drink, drive, and crash into a tree, you're stupid and your actions led to your suffering. If you go out to a bar, don't drink, drive home at 1:30 am and are hit by a drunk driver, yes, you could have avoided the roads when a significant portion of drivers are drunk, but does that mean that you deserve blame?
This girl may have had sexual relations with a 29 year old at Comicon. And she may have then ended up beaten and bloody in a street. One of those does not inherently lead to the other. I'll wager more than a handful of guys here have ended up at a strange location having sex with someone they only just met. It didn't end up with them bloody in a street.