Have you looked at Sager/Clevo models?
Hm. Lots of power. Still much more expensive than I want. I don't see an ethernet port either.
I've pretty much given up on the DVD. I'm still surprised at how few laptops have ethernet ports now.
I have to pull huge data files off the network so an ethernet port is sort of a must.
I guess I could get an external DVD player. Sort of a nuisance but no getting around it these days. I have frequent access to what may be the largest publicly available DVD collection on the planet. The number of titles easily dwarfs most of the top streaming libraries combined and has tons of stuff that just isn't available online.
I did just see a used big monster newer laptop with everything that I want for about the same price as my current one (minus the DVD drive).