By "Play Discreetly" I would assume they mean the oh so super feature that they allow you to change the title of the window so it doesn't say Evony when it is minimized. Of course it still has the Evony Icon.
And pretty much there are no People in the game, women or men, just numbers. Aside from being able to pick your avatar, in which she is an available option. So I suppose if you figure there are a few basement dwelling nerds picking her picture as an avatar, then yes, she is in the game my lord! You should go find her and cyber her up!!!
/*New and stirring things are belittled because if they are not belittled, the humiliating question arises, ``Why then are you not taking part in them?'' -H.G. Wells*/