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3. Re: Why are so many Japanese men refusing to leave their rooms? Jul 6, 2013, 15:54 eRe4s3r
 
Prez wrote on Jul 6, 2013, 15:29:
Why are so many Japanese men refusing to leave their rooms?

I had a very similar issue as the young man highlighted in the beginning of the article when I was in my 30's. I would leave my room but never wanted to leave the confines of my house. I was terrified of social settings, and I would become openly hostile to nice people if forced into one by my wife. Strangely enough it was being able to socialize on the internet (an environment in which I have full control of the interaction and can choose when to end it instantly) that helped get me over it. Considering that I often hear parents yelling at their kids to get off the computer/game console/phone and go socialize I find that pretty ironic.

I think nearly any introvert person (50% of all the people on this planet) suffer more or less from that same problem. The funny thing is I have no problem being in crowds, I love the anonymity this gives me, but when I am supposed to go somewhere where there are relatively few people (open empty restaurants, for example) I often rather go inside to a table out of view.

I don't think I will ever really get comfortable with tiny crowds (ie, 1 to 3 people) what you call social settings. I can stand going shopping but I get really uncertain when I am supposed to just "chat" with 1 or 2 people. I literally can't chat. If I have nothing to add to an discussion I am silent. Because what'd be the point of talking about stuff I 1) don't care about and 2) can't add any proper knowledge to.. And 3) Why would I talk to someone that doesn't talk about stuff I care about.

I think I am closer to those Japanese men than I want. But meh, it's who I am. I hope I get over it like you did Prez when I get older.... at least you have given me some hope in that respect. On that note: My Job does not make getting over this any easier. As "freelancer" I have free reign over my time and stuff, but it ends up meaning I often work when other people have time to socialize. And I go shopping when nearly nobody does.
 
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