I think you're just not playing with the right people Prez. I play with a bunch of RL friends and some ex-WoW players, we all have a great time despite none of us being pro-gamer material and any competitiveness is just taken lightly. You should think about joining SA sometime and looking into one of their MP communities, they are a total bunch of goofs and don't care about game/rank progression or etc.
Playing: Dark Souls 2: Scholars of the First Sin Watching: Mr. Robot