That's really messed up, not being able to get care because people assume your problem only affects the other sex.
In terms of control and risk taking, I mean that men get more chances and are taken more seriously. For example, it's easier for men to get venture capital (from Business Week: "companies headed by women represented less than 7 percent of the startups funded by venture capital firms, even though women launch nearly half of all new businesses." - although this doesn't specify how many female led businesses seek venture capital).
Society in general assumes men are strong and ambitious while women need protecting, which leads to inequality that affects both genders.